What is an empty nester? A guide to life after kids leave home

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Pacaso’s Editorial Team
October 17, 2025
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Key takeaways
This comprehensive guide covers everything you need to know about empty nesters and how to embrace the empty nester lifestyle, so you can make the most of this new phase of life.
What is an empty nester?
The term “empty nester” refers to an individual whose children have grown up and moved out of the family home, either to college or into a place of their own. The name comes from children leaving the proverbial nest. After years of raising and supporting their children, their departure can prompt parents to feel a range of emotions, from a loss of purpose, to a sense of excitement as they suddenly have more free time.

What is empty nest syndrome?

Empty nest syndrome occurs when parents report the feelings of grief, a loss of purpose, and loneliness after their children move out. While empty nest syndrome isn’t classified as an official health condition, it’s well documented — and very common. It may take some time for parents to adjust to the new normal of no children in the home. For most people, these feelings pass over time as they learn to navigate their new lifestyle. 
While entering the empty nest phase of life represents the closing of one chapter, it also ushers in the beginning of another — one with more time to focus on other parts of life, like relationships with partners and friends, hobbies and travel. It also offers an opportunity to get to know grown children as adults, which can be a very rewarding experience in itself.

What are the symptoms of empty nest syndrome?

While the experience is different for every parent, it’s common to have a variety of emotions during this time: 
  • Loneliness— It can be quite jarring to go from a full house and packed family calendar to a much quieter home with ample free time.
  • Grief— You may reflect on your time as a parent and grieve for the life you had together. 
  • Lack of purpose— After years of homework, sports practices, family vacations and birthday parties, your days might feel unsettlingly open. 
  • Loss of control— With your children grown and on their own, you may miss keeping them safe, happy, and healthy. 
  • Marital stress— For couples who’ve focused on raising kids to the detriment of their relationship, the empty nest phase can bring on new levels of relationship stress.
  • Restlessness— You may feel like you aren’t able to focus like you could previously. It’s common for your mind to wander to your children and what they’re up to. 
  • Relief— It’s common to feel a sense of relief when children leave the nest, though it’s often accompanied by a sense of guilt. It’s understandable: The transition to empty nester is full of milestones.

What is the average age of empty nesters?

The average age of empty nesters is typically late 40s to 60s. Unsurprisingly, downsizing homes or moving to a new destination are common real estate activities for people who are no longer actively raising children. Collectively, people in this age range make up 40% of home buyers and sellers, according to the National Association of Realtors.
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What are the main characteristics of empty nesters?

There are over 22 million so-called ‘empty nesters’ in the United States. Many still work full time and often find themselves in a time of financial transition. Some may no longer be financially responsible for the everyday expenses of their children — things like food, clothing and activities — and may find themselves with more disposable income. Others may be responsible  for college tuition, housing, and food while others may be managing increased taxes if they no longer have dependents to claim.

What are some tips for empty nesters to make most of this stage of life?

Once the dust has settled on the initial transition, usually after two to three months, you may find yourself ready to dive into a new routine. Here are a few tips for transitioning into and enjoying the empty nest stage of life.

1. Practice self care

Dedicate time to a new self-care routine. With a newly open calendar, shortened to-do list, and new emotions, now is the time to focus on taking care of your physical and emotional needs. Exercise, sleep, meditation, and other forms of self care are recommended.
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2. Invest in yourself

You likely spent many years prioritizing your kids’ needs over your own, with their activities dominating the family calendar. Once the kids have flown the nest, you might find yourself with more free time than you’re used to. This is the perfect opportunity to create an empty nester bucket list: learn a second language, pick up a new hobby, and travel to new destinations. We’ve even created a list of empty nest vacation ideas to get you inspired.

3. Connect with friends

An abundance of free time means you can now expand your social horizons. You may want to reconnect with old friends you’ve lost touch with over the years, or seek out new relationships for this new era. Volunteer activities, affinity groups, and community organizations can be great places to find new friends who may be in the same season of life.

4. Get to know your kids as adults

Your kids may not be little anymore, but part of the beauty of watching them grow up is the opportunity to know them as adults. This transitional period offers the chance to redefine your relationship and establish new roles and communication norms.

5. Reconnect with your partner

In dual-parent families, it’s easy to slip into a routine where your daily and weekly routines revolve around caring for your children. Once your kids move out, it’s an ideal time to rediscover your partner and focus on spending quality time together. Consider taking more vacations as a couple or starting a new hobby together.
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6. Talk to a professional

This can be a hard transition for many. If your empty nest syndrome seems to last longer than expected or seriously affects your day-to-day life, it may be time to seek out a therapist or counselor. As an objective third party, a therapist or counselor can provide coping strategies and connect you with helpful resources.

7. Find a change of scenery

When the kids have flown the nest, many empty nesters decide it’s the right time to reconsider their living situation. This might include downsizing the family home, renovating or building your dream home, or buying a second home in a favorite vacation destination.

What are some hobbies for empty nesters?

Having an empty nest is the perfect opportunity to rediscover old passions or explore new hobbies or interests. Try hiking, biking, running, or playing tennis to stay active in the fresh air. Take up gardening and use your garden-fresh produce to experiment with new recipes. Roll your sleeves up and start painting, making pottery, or tackling a home renovation project that brings your ideas to life.

Why should empty nesters co-own a second home?

Co-owning a second home is an ideal next step that fits seamlessly into many house plans for empty nesters ready to embrace freedom and flexibility. Shared ownership provides a practical way to enjoy a luxury vacation home without the full-time responsibilities of maintenance or management.Pacaso co-ownership provides the perfect setting for small family gatherings, large reunions, or extended retirement travel. With true equity in a professionally managed home, you can enjoy flexible scheduling, effortless upkeep, and the freedom to swap stays with another Pacaso owner or sell your ownership with ease. It’s a low-maintenance, luxury vacation home lifestyle designed for this exciting new chapter.If a second home is on your empty nester bucket list, Pacaso makes it easy to turn that dream into reality with a portfolio of luxury second homes in premier destinations. Our fully managed LLC co-ownership model allows up to eight owners to hold a share in a single home—owning anywhere from 1/8 to 1/2—while Pacaso handles maintenance, management, and all day-to-day responsibilities. This lets you enjoy the freedom and comfort of a second home while embracing this exciting new chapter of life.

Empty nester FAQ

01: What is the meaning of an empty nester?

An empty nester is someone whose children have grown up and moved out of the family home.

02: What are the benefits of being an empty nester?

Without children in the home, empty nesters gain time and freedom to focus on themselves through hobbies, travel, personal goals, and lifestyle upgrades like a second home.

03: What challenges do empty nesters face?

Common challenges include loneliness, shifts in daily routines, and adjusting to changes in relationships or family dynamics.

04: What are some common symptoms of empty nest syndrome?

Empty nest syndrome can cause loneliness, grief, anxiety, or a sense of emptiness as individuals adjust to this stage of life.

05: How can empty nesters benefit from vacation home ownership?

Vacation home ownership offers a meaningful way to fill the newfound free time and explore new experiences. It provides a low-maintenance, flexible retreat that aligns with lifestyle goals, offering both enjoyment and potential long-term equity.

06: Why should empty nesters choose Pacaso?

Pacaso makes second home ownership simple, flexible, and low-maintenance. Our luxury homes in premier destinations are co-owned through a fully managed LLC model, allowing multiple owners to share costs and responsibilities. Empty nesters can enjoy true equity, professional management, and flexible scheduling, making it easy to embrace travel, family time, and a stress-free vacation home lifestyle.

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